A helpless person is someone who faces a problem but never takes an action to solve it while a self motivated person is someone who might be having the same problem but who is working eagerly to solve it.
The only difference between the two is that the first does nothing and just watches what's going on while the second takes actions as soon as he faces the problem.
Suppose that two people were told that they are so fat, if one of them started a diet that same day, started reading about healthy food and started exercising the next day he will feel completely in control and will experience emotional strength. (see How to lose weight naturally).
If the other guy did nothing and just blamed the factors that made him become obese he will become helpless and depressed. In my book, The ultimate guide to getting over depression I explained how unsolved problems can be the root cause of depression. The only way to prevent depression is to prevent the accumulation of such problems by solving them on the spot.
Fighting back is the key
So its clear now that taking immediate actions makes us emotionally stronger but the problem is that we are never allowed to take actions right away Because we are stuck in rigid systems
the truth about emotional strength
If you want to become emotionally stronger then you have to free yourself from the rigid system you are living in. As soon as you encounter a problem, take few days off from college or work and focus on finding a solution or writing a plan so that you regain the sense of being in control.
If its not possible to take few days off then decide that you will sleep for 6 hours instead of 8 and that you won't watch television for few days so that you free two more hours and then dedicate those four hours everyday for finding a solution.
The faster you will react to a problem the more you will feel in control and the stronger your emotional strength will become.
immediate recovery happens when you take immediate actions
Immediate recovery happens when you respond to the new event in a timely manner. What really makes people feel bad when they face setbacks is not the setback itself but it's the helplessness they feel when they wait before starting to take actions.
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